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  In his book   ‘Emotional Intelligence’, Daniel Goleman   describes a state called   ‘flow’ . It is a state in which we are fully focused on an action, on a task, and even sometimes have no sense of time passing. Nel suo libro  “Intelligenza emotiva”, Daniel Goleman  descrive uno stato chiamato  “flusso” . Si tratta di uno stato in cui siamo completamente concentrati su un’azione, su un compito, e a volte non abbiamo nemmeno la percezione del tempo che passa. I sometimes experience this state when I write books or blog posts. It’s a pleasant feeling and beneficial for the creation of texts. It is not easy to describe this state exactly. It has something to do with passion, with enjoying what we do. A volte provo questo stato quando scrivo libri o post sul blog. È una sensazione piacevole e benefica per la creazione dei testi. Non è facile descrivere esattamente questo stato. Ha a che fare con la passione, con il piacere di ciò che facciamo. Wikipedia ...

 On page 94 of my copy of the aforementioned book we can read (translation from Polish): "(...) subordinating emotions to chosen goals is essential for concentration of attention, self-motivation and mastery, and creative work. Emotional self-control - postponing the fulfilment of desires and suppressing urges - lies at the basis of all achievements, and the ability to put oneself into a state of 'creative rapture' enables outstanding achievements in all fields. Individuals gifted with this ability achieve great results in everything they set their minds to." Who among us would not want to be among those characterised by emotional self-control? Emotions are necessary, they are there to serve us, but - attention - we must not allow them to work against us. And this is why it is so important to REACT in an appropriate manner to the emotions that arise within us. They can be positive or negative. What emotions can we distinguish? At https://www.verywellmind.com/ we can r...

 Why do we need emotional intelligence? An expert on the subject, Daniel Golema justifies the need for emotional intelligence in this way: "There is ample evidence that people who are emotionally literate - that is, know their emotions well and can manage them, read other people's feelings correctly and know how to relate to them appropriately - have an edge over others in all areas of life, ..." D. Goleman also writes that such people are more satisfied with their lives. Consequently, it is worth becoming emotionally intelligent, to broaden your knowledge of emotional intelligence. The book by D Goleman that I mention in this post is 'Emotional Intelligence'. Dare to live. It's YOUR life. My main blog is: https://daretolive.blog/ Dariusz Łukasik

 Let me start with a quote from Jim McManus CSsR:  'A change of perspective allows us to separate the culprit from his fault. When someone acts badly, we naturally focus on the evil and see that person as a 'bad person'. However, a person is more than the evil he or she commits. The wrong-doer should not be confused with wrong-doing or the sinner with sin. Christian wisdom says that one should hate the sin, but not the sinner. One must condemn evil and forgive those who have done evil." (the translation is from Polish) Man is by nature sinful, prone to sin. The evil we do will always remain evil. However, the sinner should not be condemned because he can repent. No one is free from temptations to sin. Sometimes we fall into sin, but a merciful and loving God is waiting for us to be reconciled to Him. In the Catholic Church, the sacrament of Penance is used for this reconciliation with God. God bless you all! Dariusz Łukasik

  I do not believe that there is a single man (or woman) without a problem. Every one of us has some kind of problem, although temporarily it happens that we have no problem at all. Problems are simply part of life, you have to accept that. However, the way we treat problems makes a huge difference to how we feel. We can treat a problem as a challenge to be faced. A challenge is basically the same as a problem, but by calling a problem a challenge we make it easier to find a solution, we set ourselves up more positively to look for solutions to the problem. For me it makes sense. When I have a problem, I call it a challenge. My current challenge is to learn Italian grammar to language level B2. It is not easy for me to learn this, but it is a challenge for me, I do not call it a problem. I treat this learning as a task that I want to do to improve my language skills. Dear reader of this blog: if you have a problem, start calling it a challenge - it will make your life and y...

 In Allan and Barbara Pease's book 'The Answer', the first chapter is devoted to the RAS system. The authors first provide a quote: "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the body can achieve." (Napoleon Hill, 1937). Then they write what the RAS is. It is not my purpose to describe the RAS system in detail. I will only give one fact about this system, which is mentioned by the authors of "The Answer: "Your RAS has a built-in GPS system. With a GPS, you don't need to know where all the roads are located in a given city. You only need to decide where you want to go. You input the data and the GPS directs you. (…)" The authors write that when we set a goal, our RAS leads us to it , and when we lose our way to the goal, the RAS leads us back to success. It is enough to set a goal, take actions towards success and RAS will guide us, of course not by magic or wishful thinking, but there is something in it: when we have a goal, we take the rig...

  The habit of systematically saving money is important if you want to be financially independent (e.g. from the state) ; I don't know about pension systems in other countries, but I know a bit about the pension system in Poland and I can say that the situation of pensioners in 20 or 30 years will not be very optimistic. Some American politician once reportedly said that the state will always promise a citizen a pension, but will never say how much money the citizen will receive. Therefore, it is worth saving for a future so-called "private pension" from an early stage in your working life, it is worth accumulating assets for this purpose. This habit can be developed, it is a matter of strong willpower. I am writing here about assets and not about money (cash), because paper money loses its value and the cash saved should be converted into assets that we acquire in order to protect the value of this cash (examples of such assets are precious metals or land). Some people ...

People have all sorts of problems. One way to make money is to help people solve them. You can give people what they need. For example, you can create an innovative course to learn a foreign language, you can write a novel that interests them. What I'm writing now is not just about problems, it's about human needs. You can think about what people's needs are and how you can meet them with your product or service. If your product or service is of good quality and solves a problem (or satisfies a need) then people will be happy to pay you. Let me give you an example from my own experience - it concerns the sale of my second book, which I published in Polish in traditional (paperback) form. I ordered several dozen copies and started telling my customers about my book, what it was about and how the book could change their lives. And what did it turn out to be? People who know me and trust my professionalism willingly bought my book because they found it helpful for them or for ...

  What your current life looks like depends mainly on you. External factors can be (and often are) beyond your control, but you should take responsibility for your life, for what it looks like. You are where you are and this is probably a consequence of your choices. Don't stop at what you have achieved so far unless you are completely satisfied with your achievements. Develop yourself, create new things, be creative. Look for new areas that might interest you, discover what you can and want to be good at, discover your talents that you can use to make money. Use your head, make a reflection on your life, your achievements. I have found that writing my blog posts and writing my books (I have written three so far) gives me a real satisfaction; writing texts relaxes me. I have a dream: I want to educate through my blog and my books as many people as possible, I want to try to change people's lives for the better, I want your - dear reader - development. My drea...

  ¿Qué es realmente importante en la vida? (This post is in English and Spanish) In this post I will write what I think is important, it will be my personal reflection. So important to me in life are: faith in God and spiritual life inner peace a clear conscience good relations with those closest to me, e.g. my family personal development in different spheres of life development of interests desire to live, to develop joy of living life in a useful way the ability to enjoy success, but also the everyday things wishing well for all people En este post escribiré lo que considero importante, será mi reflexión personal. Tan importantes para mí en la vida son : fe en Dios y vida espiritual paz interior conciencia tranquila buenas relaciones con mis allegados, por ejemplo, mi familia desarrollo personal en diferentes ámbitos de la vida desarrollo de intereses deseo de vivir, de desarrollarse alegría de vivir la...

(Alcune riflessioni sulla motivazione.) (This post is in English and Italian) At the beginning of this post, I will share a thought by Charles Duhigg from his book 'Smarter, Faster, Better' . The author writes, "If enthusiasm is to be aroused in people, they must first of all be given a sense of self-reliance and freedom." (the translation is from Slovak version of the mentioned book) All'inizio di questo post, condividerò un pensiero di Charles Duhigg tratto dal suo libro "Smarter, Faster, Better" . Egli scrive: "Se si vuole suscitare l'entusiasmo nelle persone, bisogna innanzitutto dare loro un senso di autosufficienza e di libertà". (la traduzione è tratta dalla versione slovacca del libro citato) If we are motivated to do something, we feel like it. An example of this is motivation for professional work. If, for example, a freelancer sees that his or her freedom in work and commitment results in a greater sense of purpose...

  Che cos'è la spiritualità? (This post is in English and Italian) Let me start by quoting a few sentences from the website: https://epiphanystl.org/ Permettetemi di iniziare citando alcune frasi dal sito web: https://epiphanystl.org/ On https://epiphanystl.org/news/what-is-catholic-spirituality we may read: "Today, I thought we might spend a few moments considering what we mean when we talk about “Spirituality”. For a Catholic, what does it mean to be spiritual? Often, people say that they are spiritual but not religious, what does that mean? I should add, here, that the genesis for this talk is two-fold. First, this is definitely a question I am preparing to answer on my upcoming ordination exam but it is also timely during Lent because the 3 devotions that Our Lord asks us to rededicate ourselves to are: prayer, fasting, and alms. The first one, prayer, has to do directly with our inner spirituality." Su https://epiphanystl.org/news/what-is-cath...

  Su un atteggiamento positivo verso se stessi (un post ispirato dal pensiero di Jim McManus CSsR) (This post is in English and Italian) Today I want to share a thought from the author mentioned in the title of this post . Here it is: "While a positive attitude towards oneself encourages us to grow, to use our own abilities and therefore to live life to the full, a negative attitude leads us to avoid challenges and to choose the 'safe' path: to live a narrowed, limited life." Oggi voglio condividere un pensiero dell'autore citato nel titolo del post . Eccolo: "Mentre un atteggiamento positivo verso se stessi ci spinge a crescere, a utilizzare le nostre capacità e quindi a vivere la vita in modo pieno, un atteggiamento negativo ci porta a evitare le sfide e a scegliere la strada 'sicura': a vivere una vita ristretta e limitata." What happens to you in life is mainly up to you, you can (if you want to) be "the manager"...

  What is the real meaning of success? (This post is in English and Italian) The following definition of success is given at https://www.dictionary.com/: the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one's goals. the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like. a performance or achievement that is marked by success, as by the attainment of honors: The play was an instant success. a person or thing that has had success, as measured by attainment of goals, wealth, etc.: She was a great success on the talk show . La seguente definizione di successo è riportata nel sito https://www.dictionary.com/: la conclusione favorevole o prospera di tentativi o sforzi; il raggiungimento dei propri obiettivi . il raggiungimento di ricchezza, posizione, onori o simili . una prestazione o un risultato che è segnato dal successo, come dal raggiungimento di onori: la commedia è stata un successo immediato . una persona o u...