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Sense of happiness according to the “happiness no matter what” method (“sense of happiness for no reason”)

  Senso di felicità secondo il metodo della “felicità a prescindere” (“senso di felicità senza motivo”) (This post is in English and Italian) I am sharing a few paragraphs from my book on happiness: Condivido alcuni paragrafi del mio libro sulla felicità : “How do you achieve a sense of happiness without making it contingent on success, on achieving your plans? One method for doing this is what I call ‘feeling happy no matter what’. What does this method mean, what does it involve?” “ Come si fa a raggiungere un senso di felicità senza farlo dipendere dal successo, dalla realizzazione dei propri progetti? Un metodo per farlo è quello che io chiamo “sentirsi felici a prescindere”. Cosa significa questo metodo, cosa comporta?” “I am already explaining: it is possible to feel happy irrespective of other people, irrespective of the amount of accumulated goods (things), irrespective of other factors on which people make their sense of happiness dependent, it is simply possible to feel h...
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“The flow” and its benefits.

  In his book   ‘Emotional Intelligence’, Daniel Goleman   describes a state called   ‘flow’ . It is a state in which we are fully focused on an action, on a task, and even sometimes have no sense of time passing. Nel suo libro  “Intelligenza emotiva”, Daniel Goleman  descrive uno stato chiamato  “flusso” . Si tratta di uno stato in cui siamo completamente concentrati su un’azione, su un compito, e a volte non abbiamo nemmeno la percezione del tempo che passa. I sometimes experience this state when I write books or blog posts. It’s a pleasant feeling and beneficial for the creation of texts. It is not easy to describe this state exactly. It has something to do with passion, with enjoying what we do. A volte provo questo stato quando scrivo libri o post sul blog. È una sensazione piacevole e benefica per la creazione dei testi. Non è facile descrivere esattamente questo stato. Ha a che fare con la passione, con il piacere di ciò che facciamo. Wikipedia ...
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A few sentences from 'Emotional Intelligence' (D. Goleman) and my commentary on them.

 On page 94 of my copy of the aforementioned book we can read (translation from Polish): "(...) subordinating emotions to chosen goals is essential for concentration of attention, self-motivation and mastery, and creative work. Emotional self-control - postponing the fulfilment of desires and suppressing urges - lies at the basis of all achievements, and the ability to put oneself into a state of 'creative rapture' enables outstanding achievements in all fields. Individuals gifted with this ability achieve great results in everything they set their minds to." Who among us would not want to be among those characterised by emotional self-control? Emotions are necessary, they are there to serve us, but - attention - we must not allow them to work against us. And this is why it is so important to REACT in an appropriate manner to the emotions that arise within us. They can be positive or negative. What emotions can we distinguish? At https://www.verywellmind.com/ we can r...
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Why do we need emotional intelligence?

 Why do we need emotional intelligence? An expert on the subject, Daniel Golema justifies the need for emotional intelligence in this way: "There is ample evidence that people who are emotionally literate - that is, know their emotions well and can manage them, read other people's feelings correctly and know how to relate to them appropriately - have an edge over others in all areas of life, ..." D. Goleman also writes that such people are more satisfied with their lives. Consequently, it is worth becoming emotionally intelligent, to broaden your knowledge of emotional intelligence. The book by D Goleman that I mention in this post is 'Emotional Intelligence'. Dare to live. It's YOUR life. My main blog is: https://daretolive.blog/ Dariusz Łukasik
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"A change of perspective allows us to separate the culprit from his fault" (on forgiveness, inspired by Jim McManus CSsR)

 Let me start with a quote from Jim McManus CSsR:  'A change of perspective allows us to separate the culprit from his fault. When someone acts badly, we naturally focus on the evil and see that person as a 'bad person'. However, a person is more than the evil he or she commits. The wrong-doer should not be confused with wrong-doing or the sinner with sin. Christian wisdom says that one should hate the sin, but not the sinner. One must condemn evil and forgive those who have done evil." (the translation is from Polish) Man is by nature sinful, prone to sin. The evil we do will always remain evil. However, the sinner should not be condemned because he can repent. No one is free from temptations to sin. Sometimes we fall into sin, but a merciful and loving God is waiting for us to be reconciled to Him. In the Catholic Church, the sacrament of Penance is used for this reconciliation with God. God bless you all! Dariusz Łukasik
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Each of us has a problem, but we can treat it as a challenge.

  I do not believe that there is a single man (or woman) without a problem. Every one of us has some kind of problem, although temporarily it happens that we have no problem at all. Problems are simply part of life, you have to accept that. However, the way we treat problems makes a huge difference to how we feel. We can treat a problem as a challenge to be faced. A challenge is basically the same as a problem, but by calling a problem a challenge we make it easier to find a solution, we set ourselves up more positively to look for solutions to the problem. For me it makes sense. When I have a problem, I call it a challenge. My current challenge is to learn Italian grammar to language level B2. It is not easy for me to learn this, but it is a challenge for me, I do not call it a problem. I treat this learning as a task that I want to do to improve my language skills. Dear reader of this blog: if you have a problem, start calling it a challenge - it will make your life and y...
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The Secret of the RAS system

 In Allan and Barbara Pease's book 'The Answer', the first chapter is devoted to the RAS system. The authors first provide a quote: "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the body can achieve." (Napoleon Hill, 1937). Then they write what the RAS is. It is not my purpose to describe the RAS system in detail. I will only give one fact about this system, which is mentioned by the authors of "The Answer: "Your RAS has a built-in GPS system. With a GPS, you don't need to know where all the roads are located in a given city. You only need to decide where you want to go. You input the data and the GPS directs you. (…)" The authors write that when we set a goal, our RAS leads us to it , and when we lose our way to the goal, the RAS leads us back to success. It is enough to set a goal, take actions towards success and RAS will guide us, of course not by magic or wishful thinking, but there is something in it: when we have a goal, we take the rig...
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